Abuse In Marriage, Divorce Grounds.
Having divorce grounds because of marriage abuse is a serious matter! When there is abuse going on in a relationship, it's time to separate. Divorcing is definitely grounds if needed.
Abuse in its different manifestations is the most destructive tool that can be used by anyone against another person. It is designed to distort a persons view of reality and of God, thus keeping that person from having a fruitful life. When there is abuse going on in a relationship, its time to separate. It doesnt matter how holy or good the person seems who is doing the violating.
There are different types of abuse and they are all designed for one thing and one thing only, DESTRUCTION! I believe all types of abuse can be put into one of these categories:
Physical Abuse: which is body torture that is used to subdue and control another person.
Sexual Abuse: torturing both a person physically and emotionally using unlawful sex acts as the weapon, i.e. prostitution, adultery, incest, homosexuality, rape, marriage rape, anything immoral or illegal sexually.
Verbal Abuse: designed to distort the truth a person holds about something or someone, including themselves in order to gain control over someones mind.
Spiritual (religious) Abuse: used to manipulate another person to serve any other god than Jesus while many times exalting the abuser. At its worse, its satanic ritual abuse, which many times include all the other categories of abuse.
Most sadly, all these types of abuses deeply scar the emotions of a person and usually greatly alters their perception and their ability to live life to its fullest. But there is hope. His name is Jesus. He has come to heal the broken-hearted.
If you have been abused and are hurt deeply inside, there is hope, healing, and full restoration. If you will yield your heart to the Holy Spirit sent from God to be our helper, He will lead you through every traumatic situation that you have been through into wholeness. The process is painful. However, on the other side of each door of pain is a place of joy, peace and rest.
The Holy Spirit works through the Word of God (the Bible). Which means, you must diligently give yourself to study of the Bible daily, surround yourself with godly people, turn your ears and eyes away from the secular media including TV, radio, movies, books and the like, and turn all of your heart over to Jesus, He will tenderly minister life to you instead of death. Share the pain of your heart with Him while searching the Scriptures for the answers. As youre doing that, turn your eyes and ears to godly Christian books, tapes, videos, TV, radio stations and music that God can use to administer healing to your heart. (You heard it said, Eat the hay and leave the sticks? There is a lot of christian stuff out there that has a lot of sticks. Pick through them until you find a good hay mound.) As you do these things you will gradually and continually become a whole, hurt-free, peaceful and joyful person. You will even start to like yourself. And how good that will feel!
For another article, click on Verbal Abuse, Marriage And Relationship.
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